You Will Never Win Until You Reevaluate Those Closest To You
Seriously evaluate your inner circle…
I get so tired of all of these motivational, inspirational, spiritualist, metaphysicians, thought leaders, occultist and plain old shit poppers talking about how to become a better version of you.
They talk about setting goals, starting an llc, meditation, yoga, positive thought and even the vegan and raw food diet as a means of establishing and living a more peaceful and rewarding life.
But wait…!
What if you are not single?
What if you have children by someone that you end up not liking?
What if you have had a major life set back?
What if you live amongst people that do not have even have the tip of a pinky finger of the interest that you have in bettering yourself and achieving financial freedom along the way.
How easy is it then to focus on those goals?
It can still be done, but the irritation, the unnecessary stupidity that has to be dodged is not conducive to the attainment of the goals that any adventurous person desires to reach.
Imagine being involved in a relationship and every time you want to go left, that person wants to go right…you want to avoid the cliff, they will go and fall off the cliff just for the satisfaction of going against you.
That is the type of foolishness that these gurus and the like, do not talk about.
They do not talk about the mental struggle of wanting and envisioning oneself living a better life and at the same time having to compromise the needed beliefs.
Why would beliefs be compromised?
I know most people “want” to be extremely successful and they believe that once they become successful, once they achieve the financial freedom, once they begin to show the people in their circle the accomplishment of a goal, perhaps a life of travel, new foods and new people, that those who created so many mental road blocks will change.
They love the people so much that they believe that “Once they see the fruits of my labor, they will change.”
Sorry, but that is absolutely wrong. People are going to be what they are going to be.
If a person presents nothing in the way of genuine support for your goals, is unwilling to help you do the work or if nothing else, willing to give you the peace and quite that you need to read, research, think, type, take action, go out and network with people face to face…then you have a decision to make.
Oh and if you have made a decision to eat more healthy and exercise more and make that a lifestyle change and not just another bullshit new years resolution, those in your circle will really show their colors.
Their thoughts and words are not on support, I will shine a spotlight on my life for emphasis.
My circle wanted to remind me of how I used to love chicken, macaroni and cheese and Doritos. How when I was a child I called everything a pork chop…they don’t understand why I refuse white sugar and salt.
I was an overweight child by the way…
When I have been around them during holidays, they eat eggs, bacon, toast, biscuits and pancakes all in one sitting for breakfast, while I choose to eat…fresh fruits.
They have given me hell for being a vegan for 17 years and they still can’t get over it.
I’m giving you something real here, as many people want to live a fit, healthy and even vegan lifestyle.
As your body becomes more toned, muscular and defined, theirs becomes rounder and more balloonish and yes, the hate will come forth.
You may hear comments like “You don’t eat much do you?”
You are fit and toned and they look like they could be rolled to knock down some bowling pins. The nerve of these people, especially when you do not pressure them to live like you.
They may have a cabinet full of doctor prescribed pills, while you have a cabinet full of natural herbs.
Be it a health choice, financial choice and an all encompassing LIFE choice, the character of the people around you must be evaluated critically.
If those people are not in tune with the direction that you are going, then you have to make plans to separate yourself.
That decision is literally a matter of life and death. You will either give life to wonderful goals and dreams or you will die the slow death of “I coulda, I woulda and I shoulda.”
There is nothing worse than listening to an older person talk about past glory, with zero effort in creating any new and present glory.
I can’t engage in those types of conversations, they are too painful for me to listen to.
I am not the same person I was 20 years ago. My experiences and mindset have created a new me and I take offense at anyone I know who has something negative to say about it.
YOU might want to get offended and if your goals do not mean enough for you to get offended at the sound of some bullshit, then you need to question yourself and your goals.
Those gurus don’t talk about this…
What is a guru anyway?
People like to put up a front and life has many layers and you have to deal with all of those layers.
The layers refuse to be ignored, they have to be dealt with.
Yes a positive mindset, visualization, prosperous affirmations/incantations, meditation, a strong will, desire, focus, determination, summoning deities, summoning demons, calling on ancestors, setting up altars, doing rituals, reading your natal chart, doing a numerology profile and having something to prove, will all work.
But…if you constantly have negative, soul sucking, energy vampires around you, then you ain’t gone accomplish shit!
So now…you are in what has been called the valley of decision.
What are you going to do?
People don’t like that question.
Strong people put their goals over everything. Its like saying “I must slay the dragon and then I will return for my loved ones.”
Hey…what if your loved ones are the dragon?
Can you cut then off long enough to reach your goals?
Can you block them out?
Are you strong enough to move away from them in order to have a peaceful mind that allows you to get busy?
Can you leave your lover? They want to cuddle and have sex, but you have work to do.
Can you get divorced? You have dreams and a goal, but your spouse complains about how much time you spend on your laptop.
The spouse wants you to watch tv with them and talk about how “It must be nice to have money.”
I couldn’t do it anymore.
I had to run for the hills and seek more abundant and peaceful spaces.
Who can be a King or Queen in the company of defeated people with verbal/mental spears…always ready to throw at you?
Think about that and clear the board.
Copyright 2019 Jassiri Nassor
